Jun. 26th, 2012

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I think comprehensive sex ed in age-appropriate language and detail from both the schools and the parents should start several years before puberty (age 7 or so). It should start this early for the same reason you have fire drills and tornado drills and other emergency plans: because you want the safe behavior to be the automatic behavior, the behavior they fall back on when fear or excitement or hormones have them too mixed up to think properly. To my mind, abstinence only sex ed is the equivalent of trying to keep kids safe from fire by telling them not to play with matches. It's a good first step, but it won't keep them safe when there's smoke in air.

The schools should focus on it from a scientific/medical/basic mechanics angle, while the parents should focus on the emotional, moral, and ethical aspects. Not being either an educator or a parent, I don't know exactly what should be discussed (or in what words) at what age.

I do think that one specific element that should start early and be emphasized at all ages and to both genders is that you are always allowed to say "NO" to any sexual behavior (and conversely, that when someone says "NO," you listen to them and stop), and if someone doesn't stop when you tell them to, you should tell an authority figure. Obviously this should also get more nuanced as the kids get older, addressing things like people trying to use guilt, fear, chemicals, or other means to get sex without the other person having the opportunity to say yes or no.

I'm not sure how much sense this makes. I may be editing for clarity later on. If I do, I'll try to note what I changed.
jennythereader: (Default)
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I think comprehensive sex ed in age-appropriate language and detail from both the schools and the parents should start several years before puberty (age 7 or so). It should start this early for the same reason you have fire drills and tornado drills and other emergency plans: because you want the safe behavior to be the automatic behavior, the behavior they fall back on when fear or excitement or hormones have them too mixed up to think properly. To my mind, abstinence only sex ed is the equivalent of trying to keep kids safe from fire by telling them not to play with matches. It's a good first step, but it won't keep them safe when there's smoke in air.

The schools should focus on it from a scientific/medical/basic mechanics angle, while the parents should focus on the emotional, moral, and ethical aspects. Not being either an educator or a parent, I don't know exactly what should be discussed (or in what words) at what age.

I do think that one specific element that should start early and be emphasized at all ages and to both genders is that you are always allowed to say "NO" to any sexual behavior (and conversely, that when someone says "NO," you listen to them and stop), and if someone doesn't stop when you tell them to, you should tell an authority figure. Obviously this should also get more nuanced as the kids get older, addressing things like people trying to use guilt, fear, chemicals, or other means to get sex without the other person having the opportunity to say yes or no.

I'm not sure how much sense this makes. I may be editing for clarity later on. If I do, I'll try to note what I changed.
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I've seen a couple versions of this floating around, but this is the one I decided to do. It might take me a bit more than 10 days, because I'll probably only do it on weekdays.

Day One: Ten things you want to do some day.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Three: Eight qualities you think are awesome in other people.
Day Four: Seven (semi)interesting things you've pondered or thought about recently.
Day Five: Six things you are glad you did.
Day Six: Five books/movies/tv series/etc that you'd recommend.
Day Seven: Four silly quirks
Day Eight: Three pet peeves
Day Nine: Two things for which you're proud of yourself.
Day Ten: One secret plan.

1. Moving out to Albany. (Most of the time. Sometimes I wish it was closer to Michigan.)

2. Celebrating my 21st birthday by going to the medieval fair at The Cathedral of All Saints. That was where I heard about...

3. Going to my first SCA event in November of 1999. That was where I met my husband and several other people who are still important in my life, and directly or indirectly led to me meeting just about all of my friends out here.

4. Going to Arisia.

5. Taking what felt like a major gamble in February of 2010. It continues to pay off beautifully.

6. Suggesting our current living arrangement. While not perfect, it's working pretty well.
jennythereader: (Default)
I've seen a couple versions of this floating around, but this is the one I decided to do. It might take me a bit more than 10 days, because I'll probably only do it on weekdays.

Day One: Ten things you want to do some day.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Three: Eight qualities you think are awesome in other people.
Day Four: Seven (semi)interesting things you've pondered or thought about recently.
Day Five: Six things you are glad you did.
Day Six: Five books/movies/tv series/etc that you'd recommend.
Day Seven: Four silly quirks
Day Eight: Three pet peeves
Day Nine: Two things for which you're proud of yourself.
Day Ten: One secret plan.

1. Moving out to Albany. (Most of the time. Sometimes I wish it was closer to Michigan.)

2. Celebrating my 21st birthday by going to the medieval fair at The Cathedral of All Saints. That was where I heard about...

3. Going to my first SCA event in November of 1999. That was where I met my husband and several other people who are still important in my life, and directly or indirectly led to me meeting just about all of my friends out here.

4. Going to Arisia.

5. Taking what felt like a major gamble in February of 2010. It continues to pay off beautifully.

6. Suggesting our current living arrangement. While not perfect, it's working pretty well.

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