jennythereader: (* I Don't Want Your Morals: I Have My Ow)


Just because people around me act as if they are still teenagers is no reason for me to react as if I were still a teenager.


Since leaving East Lansing I've realized that a large part of why I was so miserable in high school wasn't the way people treated me, it was the way I reacted to that treatment. I let the horrible behavior of a few people make me so paranoid and over-sensitive that I assumed everyone wanted to be just as evil to me. If they weren't being actively evil at that moment, it was because they were setting me up, or because they didn't want to look bad in front of a grown-up, or they had some other reason to lie. If I heard laughter but not the joke, I assumed I was being laughed at. Beyond the paranoia and sensitivity, the other part of my reaction was the classic "hurt them before they hurt you." Not healthy then, and not healthy now.

I have to remember that the odds are good that the half-heard comments and stifled laughter are not about me at all, and even if they are, I need to look at the people it's coming from. Are they people who's opinions I give a flying f**k about? Chances are that they aren't. Easy to say, hard to act on.

Live by the Golden Rule, even if no one else seems to.


I've edited this a couple of times to improve phrasings. I'll probably make further changes. The most recent change was to move the picture from the bottom to the top.
jennythereader: (* I Don't Want Your Morals: I Have My Ow)


Just because people around me act as if they are still teenagers is no reason for me to react as if I were still a teenager.


Since leaving East Lansing I've realized that a large part of why I was so miserable in high school wasn't the way people treated me, it was the way I reacted to that treatment. I let the horrible behavior of a few people make me so paranoid and over-sensitive that I assumed everyone wanted to be just as evil to me. If they weren't being actively evil at that moment, it was because they were setting me up, or because they didn't want to look bad in front of a grown-up, or they had some other reason to lie. If I heard laughter but not the joke, I assumed I was being laughed at. Beyond the paranoia and sensitivity, the other part of my reaction was the classic "hurt them before they hurt you." Not healthy then, and not healthy now.

I have to remember that the odds are good that the half-heard comments and stifled laughter are not about me at all, and even if they are, I need to look at the people it's coming from. Are they people who's opinions I give a flying f**k about? Chances are that they aren't. Easy to say, hard to act on.

Live by the Golden Rule, even if no one else seems to.


I've edited this a couple of times to improve phrasings. I'll probably make further changes. The most recent change was to move the picture from the bottom to the top.
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Given that we're actually starting to take baby steps towards homeownership, I decided that I should actually write down some of my thoughts and the things I want to do once I have land to do them on. Some of these are realistic, while others are pipedreams or things that will take a couple of decades to pay off.

- As soon as possible after we move in, I want to build a dozen raised garden beds. I think 1 yard by 2 yards will be the optimum size for me, but I still need to figure out how high to make them. I'll start planting in one or two of them right away if it's the right time of year, and the rest I'll fill with scrap wood, brush, and soil for the hugelkultur method. I figure I'll add one or two beds to cultivation each year until I reach as many as I can handle.

- In the first round of planting I'm going with onions, garlic, green peppers, tomatoes, zucchini, and maybe potatoes and hot peppers. Not sure what I'll add to later rounds.

- Stay organic. What's the point of growing my own food if it isn't going to be any better than what I can get at the store?

- Use local heirloom varieties whenever I can find them. Again, what's the point of growing my own food if it's no better than from the store or if it's not well suited to local conditions?

- I'd like to end up with 6 apple trees, 3 tart (pie) cherry trees, 3 sweet cherry trees, an edible crabapple tree, and a pear tree. This may take a few years.

- A strawberry bed.

- A grapevine.

- A raspberry/blackberry patch.

- I hate lawns that are cut so close to the ground that they look shaved. I like grass that's long enough to move when the wind blows.

- I'm also not fond of lawns that are solid blocks of green. I like multiple shades of green, and even some color.

- I'd like to make a mix of native grass seed, violet seeds, clover, and a few fragrent herbs, and use that to fill in any bare patches on the lawn. I'd have no objection if the entire lawn ended up being things that smell lovely.

- A few chickens

- I'd like to grow the majority of the vegetables we eat, using saved seeds as much as I can

- a peach tree or two. I know it will take more effort than the other trees I have listed.

- a fruit salad tree, but only if I do the grafting myself.

- a patio and fire-pit that are comfortable for large groups

- interesting sculpture in out of the way corners

- a milk goat

- a rose garden. All varieties choosen for 1)their hardiness, 2)how well suited their blossoms and hips are for making food or cosmetics, and 3)how fragrant they are.

I also have a yard and garden board over on pinterest.

This list will get edited and added to, and the individual items will get changed and expanded upon. Some things might even get deleted.
jennythereader: (Default)
Given that we're actually starting to take baby steps towards homeownership, I decided that I should actually write down some of my thoughts and the things I want to do once I have land to do them on. Some of these are realistic, while others are pipedreams or things that will take a couple of decades to pay off.

- As soon as possible after we move in, I want to build a dozen raised garden beds. I think 1 yard by 2 yards will be the optimum size for me, but I still need to figure out how high to make them. I'll start planting in one or two of them right away if it's the right time of year, and the rest I'll fill with scrap wood, brush, and soil for the hugelkultur method. I figure I'll add one or two beds to cultivation each year until I reach as many as I can handle.

- In the first round of planting I'm going with onions, garlic, green peppers, tomatoes, zucchini, and maybe potatoes and hot peppers. Not sure what I'll add to later rounds.

- Stay organic. What's the point of growing my own food if it isn't going to be any better than what I can get at the store?

- Use local heirloom varieties whenever I can find them. Again, what's the point of growing my own food if it's no better than from the store or if it's not well suited to local conditions?

- I'd like to end up with 6 apple trees, 3 tart (pie) cherry trees, 3 sweet cherry trees, an edible crabapple tree, and a pear tree. This may take a few years.

- A strawberry bed.

- A grapevine.

- A raspberry/blackberry patch.

- I hate lawns that are cut so close to the ground that they look shaved. I like grass that's long enough to move when the wind blows.

- I'm also not fond of lawns that are solid blocks of green. I like multiple shades of green, and even some color.

- I'd like to make a mix of native grass seed, violet seeds, clover, and a few fragrent herbs, and use that to fill in any bare patches on the lawn. I'd have no objection if the entire lawn ended up being things that smell lovely.

- A few chickens

- I'd like to grow the majority of the vegetables we eat, using saved seeds as much as I can

- a peach tree or two. I know it will take more effort than the other trees I have listed.

- a fruit salad tree, but only if I do the grafting myself.

- a patio and fire-pit that are comfortable for large groups

- interesting sculpture in out of the way corners

- a milk goat

- a rose garden. All varieties choosen for 1)their hardiness, 2)how well suited their blossoms and hips are for making food or cosmetics, and 3)how fragrant they are.

I also have a yard and garden board over on pinterest.

This list will get edited and added to, and the individual items will get changed and expanded upon. Some things might even get deleted.
jennythereader: (Clef Note)
(Making notes for when I get home and can use iTunes)

Own Your Life
  • "If Today Was Your Last Day" by Nickleback
jennythereader: (Clef Note)
(Making notes for when I get home and can use iTunes)

Own Your Life
  • "If Today Was Your Last Day" by Nickleback
jennythereader: (Default)
I have tomorrow off from work. I did not ask for the day off, and resent being told I have to use vacation time for it. As much as I dislike "use it or lose it" policies, I think it would annoy me less than this policy of "some people are letting too much vacation time accumulate, so everybody has to use two days worth on days that we choose."

Anyway.

My to do list for tomorrow is:
- Take Skif to the vet. He's due for some shots and a general checkup.
- Go jeans shopping. I had one pair die on me last weekend, and another is getting pretty worn out, so I need at least one new pair
- Get a haircut. My ends are looking pretty ragged, so I'm going to get an inch or two cut off.
- Get a manicure. (Second most likely to get dropped if time is short.)
- Grocery shopping. It's always a readjustment when the farm share ends and I have to start buying vegetables again.
- Finish the [livejournal.com profile] 2xcreative project (part 1). I just need to draw in the tree trunk on one side of the paper, and then do the embroidery.
- Pick a project or recipe from my pinterest boards and do it. (This is the one most likely to get skipped if I run out of time.)
- Make dinner
jennythereader: (Default)
I have tomorrow off from work. I did not ask for the day off, and resent being told I have to use vacation time for it. As much as I dislike "use it or lose it" policies, I think it would annoy me less than this policy of "some people are letting too much vacation time accumulate, so everybody has to use two days worth on days that we choose."

Anyway.

My to do list for tomorrow is:
- Take Skif to the vet. He's due for some shots and a general checkup.
- Go jeans shopping. I had one pair die on me last weekend, and another is getting pretty worn out, so I need at least one new pair
- Get a haircut. My ends are looking pretty ragged, so I'm going to get an inch or two cut off.
- Get a manicure. (Second most likely to get dropped if time is short.)
- Grocery shopping. It's always a readjustment when the farm share ends and I have to start buying vegetables again.
- Finish the [livejournal.com profile] 2xcreative project (part 1). I just need to draw in the tree trunk on one side of the paper, and then do the embroidery.
- Pick a project or recipe from my pinterest boards and do it. (This is the one most likely to get skipped if I run out of time.)
- Make dinner
jennythereader: (Default)
(For my own reference, feel free to ignore.)

* means I need to bring it onsite, no * means leave it in the hotel or car

3 sets of clothes (2days + 1 extra)
extra socks*
camp chair*
rain coat (*sunday only given the current weather forecast)
toiletries
chargers
sandals
regular shoes
bug spray*
sun screen*
camera*
sun hat*
knitting*
kindle*
water bottle*
jacket*
aloe

I'll eat out of the onsite food court while it's open, so food shouldn't be an issue.

Did I forget anything?
jennythereader: (Default)
(For my own reference, feel free to ignore.)

* means I need to bring it onsite, no * means leave it in the hotel or car

3 sets of clothes (2days + 1 extra)
extra socks*
camp chair*
rain coat (*sunday only given the current weather forecast)
toiletries
chargers
sandals
regular shoes
bug spray*
sun screen*
camera*
sun hat*
knitting*
kindle*
water bottle*
jacket*
aloe

I'll eat out of the onsite food court while it's open, so food shouldn't be an issue.

Did I forget anything?
jennythereader: (Bernard: *Pace*Pace*Pace*)
Quick stop at the mall for a few different things.
- I'm looking for shoes that look good with a skirt and can be walked in for an entire day. They're low priority, so I'm not paying more than $50.
- A mesh box or canister with a lid for storing my face scrubbies in. I need something that can breathe but is cat-proof.
- Maybe a manicure, if my hands have cleared up by then.
Laundry
Pay a few bills
Other chores
clean out my car
move music off the flash drive and onto the house server
move different music off the server and onto the flash drive
jennythereader: (Bernard: *Pace*Pace*Pace*)
Quick stop at the mall for a few different things.
- I'm looking for shoes that look good with a skirt and can be walked in for an entire day. They're low priority, so I'm not paying more than $50.
- A mesh box or canister with a lid for storing my face scrubbies in. I need something that can breathe but is cat-proof.
- Maybe a manicure, if my hands have cleared up by then.
Laundry
Pay a few bills
Other chores
clean out my car
move music off the flash drive and onto the house server
move different music off the server and onto the flash drive
jennythereader: (Default)
- hit the ATM
- drop stuff at Goodwill
- Target for assorted odds'n'ends
- Hannaford for groceries
- house chores (I'm trying out a new app for keeping track of what should get done, when. Once I've used it longer I'll do a review.)
- start packing for Roses (mostly the big stuff: tent and bedding. Garb can wait till tomorrow or Friday.)
- collapse
jennythereader: (Default)
- hit the ATM
- drop stuff at Goodwill
- Target for assorted odds'n'ends
- Hannaford for groceries
- house chores (I'm trying out a new app for keeping track of what should get done, when. Once I've used it longer I'll do a review.)
- start packing for Roses (mostly the big stuff: tent and bedding. Garb can wait till tomorrow or Friday.)
- collapse
jennythereader: (Default)
Tonight:
- Lowes or Home Depot and get a window box, whatever hardware I need to mount it, and appropriate soil.
- Grocery store for milk
- make supper

Tomorrow:
- co-op and/or farmer's market for veggies, meat, sprouted plants if they have any I want to try growing
- decant some peach/whiskey cordial into a smaller bottle
- make supper

Sunday:
- Easter w/Tom's older brother(s?) and family
jennythereader: (Default)
Tonight:
- Lowes or Home Depot and get a window box, whatever hardware I need to mount it, and appropriate soil.
- Grocery store for milk
- make supper

Tomorrow:
- co-op and/or farmer's market for veggies, meat, sprouted plants if they have any I want to try growing
- decant some peach/whiskey cordial into a smaller bottle
- make supper

Sunday:
- Easter w/Tom's older brother(s?) and family
jennythereader: (Lydia Bennet: Silly!)
I suspect that the book they're talking about in this strip would appeal to several medium sized boys that I know.


jennythereader: (Lydia Bennet: Silly!)
I suspect that the book they're talking about in this strip would appeal to several medium sized boys that I know.


jennythereader: (* Cross-Stitched Dragon *)
I need to see if I can find this store: Purl. They have all sorts of cool sounding craft supplies that I'd love to check out.
jennythereader: (* Cross-Stitched Dragon *)
I need to see if I can find this store: Purl. They have all sorts of cool sounding craft supplies that I'd love to check out.

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